So You Really Need Love, do you?

Hello,

Lately, I enjoyed many, many writings on "Love" (all 13 different kinds). Most of it is a nice read. Everything I have looked at was extremely informative about what one should do, but totally lacking in how to do it. I am quite curious and would like to make a comment, relay a story and then ask a question.

Category one(C2) words such as Love, trust, respect, honor, etc. are one type of word.

They are not a Category two (C1) word like chair, car, table, filing cabinet another type of word.

C1-Words that can be touched with the physical hand already have a concrete definition that can be understood with out necessary further definition or rules to determine the meaning.

C2-Words can not be touched with the physical hand and do not have a concrete definition associated with it. Therefore C1-Words need more definition and understanding of the rule structure.

Reading what people have written about the C1-Word "Love" reminds me of a conversation that took place on an airplane between three passengers. One passenger said, "He just doesn't love me." The second passenger responded, "It is hard to get anyone to love each other." The third passenger asked, "What is Love?"

The first two passengers spoke many words about the effect of what love is but they were unable to put into words exactly what love is. They had no useful definition. No wonder others couldn't love them, they had no meaning definition of the word. They argued or discussed this the whole plane trip. They did not come up with a workable definition of what love is. (A workable definition would be something that 12 jurors could agree upon.) What it is, not what it does.

Before I ask the question, I'm reminded what a colleague once said, "There is no such thing as love. It is all a state of being and not to many people know how to do it. They know about it, like it, love it, talk about it, know why it is important, know what it is but they have no clue as to how to do love."

So my question to you is:

What are your rules for love? In other words what has to be there so that you personally know it is love? What is your practical definition what are the steps so that an actor could take the steps (internally and externally) and feel and demonstrate love?

Need Nothing, Observe Everything, Use What Shows Up,

Enjoy Life-It's ALL Information/Energy, Utilize It ALL,

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Dr. Houston Vetter, Ph.D., D.D., Counseling, Consulting, Coaching

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Part #3-The Energy Model

The Energy Model is:

Everything is Energy
(Energy makes up all that is seen and unseen)
Energy is only Energy
(It is neither good or bad, right or wrong)
Energy is designed to flow
(It is not designed to be held or stopped)
Human's are not containers, they are conduits
(We are designed to flow energy not contain it)
Problems are the result of a disruption/block in the energy flow
(Release the block, remove the disruption and solutions/health is the results)

A comment in closing. I suggest using all three models or metaphors (Mind Science, Brain Science and Energy Psychology) whenever you choose and yet any time you get stuck, run into a problem, feel bad, or just don't know what to do. Remember the energy model and wonder, "If I could, how would I use this." Or you can email me and discuss how to use the energy model...

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Part #2-Three Models of Understanding How Results are Achieved

THREE BASIC METAPHORS (Models):

Mind Sciences like NLP is a model of subjectivity. It is very easy to learn once one really understands the difference between content, context and process.

Brain Sciences like amygdala clicking are brain based (actual movement in the brain) and yet use mind sciences techniques to achieve results.

Energy Psychology is ANOTHER model, different from either Mind or Brain Sciences. It is the simplest and least complicated metaphor.

The Energy model is more useful in its' simplisity than the Mind or Brain Science. It removes ungrounded assessments (content/judgments and labels) and uses more grounded assessments (process/outcome and calibration).

Note: The Mind Sciences like NLP/DHE/HPE/etc made the original distintions of content-context-process and yet many in the Mind Science community get caught up in content because for some reason people love their stories about "why" this is the way it is. With a process model like the energy model the why is always the same and there is no need to come up with justifying stories because it is not about the person and is designed to not be taken personally. For it is about the process.

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Part #1-The Three Models of Understanding How Results are Achieved

Hello All,

Recently, as I've been known to do, I was contemplating "How Results are Achieved". In other words, what goes on inside each of us that causes the juices to flow or action to be taken?

In the fields of Self Help, Personal Development, Self Improvement and the Mind Sciences many are aware that there are three parts to any communication, the content, context, and process.

The majority of people are only aware of content and a smaller number give much attention to context and an extremely small minority are even aware of process.

THE MASTER KEY

Fortunately, for those of us who are aware of process it seems like a magical key. Where in actuality it is a Master Key to getting the results you want.

As you look at the following chart you may get extremely excited or I could be wrong you may just allow the excitement to build as the understanding of the value of process starts to sink in.

Content = Why and What (Judgments-Labels)
Context = Where and When (Location)
Process = HOW (Structure-Strategies)

To get the results we want the most important thing is to know "HOW" to get them. All the rest we can change or make up after we achieve our results.

We normally do this regardless of whether we get our desired results or not. We want to explain "why' it worked or didn't work. (We make up a story.)

Even in the Mind Sciences field people get their stories/metaphors/maps mixed up. When trying to explain how results are achieved we have the tendency to mix metaphors.

Or like My Grampa Vetter said, "You're trying to drive to Dallas but you are using a Geological map for directions. They are both maps of the territory but you are using the drilling map to drive with."

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